Kerala college students break taboo surrounding sex education
Thiruvananthapuram (PTI): Why is consent so important in sex, asked Nirmal, a second year BA student at a prominent college in Kerala during a sexuality education programme held on the campus.
The 19-year-old wanted to know if there is anything wrong in being honest about his sexual feelings towards a girl on the campus.
"If I have feelings towards a girl, why should I be ashamed about expressing it?" asked the teenager, matter-of-factly.
At a time when talking openly about sex is still considered taboo, around 100 students at the famous University College Thiruvananthapuram, sharing seats with the opposite sex, showed that talking about sex was as much a part of their well-being as much as their right.
The event was organised by the National Service Scheme (NSS) of the college in association with Vvox, a sexual health platform backed by Harvard-trained and ASSECT-certified sexologists from India and the United States. ASSECT is the American Society of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists, which is a body that certifies and provides training to doctors.
The session comes little over a week after the Kerala High Court observed that boys should not touch a girl or a woman without her explicit consent.
The highlight of the event held here on Saturday was high participation of female students. Some of the topics discussed at the two-and-a-half-hour long session included, masturbation, virginity, pornography and the importance of eating right in sexual health.
Responding to the teenager's query on consent, Sangeeth Sebastian, sexuality educator and founder of Vvox, said it is important to avoid any unpleasant situations by ensuring that the other person is comfortable with his sexual advances in the first place.
"Whether your feelings will make someone else uncomfortable or not, is something which you cannot control," said Sebastian.
Sebastian said Vvox in association with Pixstory, a hate speech fighting social media platform, Kerala House, a Thiruvananthapuram-based restaurant and Kanal, a gender sensitisation platform, is on a mission to provide medically accurate, scientific and reality-based sexuality education in campuses across the state.
According to Thapasaya M, a final year BA Political Science student, the session helped them in clarifying a lot of myths and misconceptions about sex, especially those relating to masturbation and virginity.
"Sex is not a dirty word, but an integral part of an individual's healthy living," Thapasya told PTI.
Her view was also shared by Maya, a second year Geology student, who felt the session connected well with the current generation. "I never had sex education in my school. Today, I learned that there is nothing to be ashamed about sex. It's something that should be understood with responsibility and respect," she said.
Sheeba S, assistant professor, Zoology and NSS programme officer, said internet porn has become the de facto sex education for most youngsters.
"Learning about sex from porn can give you distorted and exaggerated ideas about sex, which is why providing the younger generation with medically accurate sexuality education is so important," Sheeba told PTI.
Titled 'Eat, Play, Love, responsibly', the session explored the link between food and fitness on sexual health, through interactive sessions, Powerpoint presentations and contests.
"Nearly 80 per cent of sexual difficulties can be addressed easily without any medication or medical intervention, if you have just the right information," said Sebastian.
"And that's what we are providing through our campaign. Our campaign module has been vetted by a team of top doctors from India and the US, including Dr Lawrence I Sank, one of the most cited sex researchers on male sexual dysfunctions in the world," Sebastian further said.
He hoped that in the coming months, the campaign would be expanded to campuses across the state.
Annu K Kunchappan, managing partner, Kerala House restaurant and a campaign partner, talked about how junk food can impact sexual health by clogging the penile arteries.
"Most of us don't realise that the immediate impact of eating junk food is how it can adversely affect our sexual function, even before it can cause heart trouble," she said.
Taking note of the rise in sexual harassment cases in the society, the Kerala High Court had recently observed that the lessons in good behaviour and etiquette must be part of the curriculum at least from the primary school level.
It said boys should understand the phrase "no" means "no" and urged the society to teach them to be selfless and gentle, rather than selfish and entitled.
The court said this while considering a plea challenging the order of the Internal Complaints Committee and the order passed by the Principal of a College in connection with a harassment matter.
It said showing respect and honour towards a woman was not old fashioned, but a virtue for all times.
The session at the University College was also organised at a time when a significant section of Kerala society was up in arms against the Left government's bid to introduce gender-neutral uniforms, mixed seating in schools or changing school timings, as suggested by an expert panel.
Senior Muslim League leader Abdurahiman Randathani had recently alleged that as part of the Left government's gender-neutral initiatives, students were being made to sit together and taught about masturbation and homosexuality.
"Just imagine what will happen if teenagers are made to sit together and taught about masturbation and homosexuality. What will happen to the culture of this land?" the IUML leader had said during a Congress-led United Democratic Front (UDF) protest march against the Left government over various issues in Kannur last month.
The protest had forced the Kerala government to inform the State Assembly that it has not taken any decision on the expert panel's recommendation.
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Actress sexual assault: Court says Prosecution 'miserably' failed to prove conspiracy against Dileep
Kochi (PTI): The prosecution had "miserably" failed to prove the conspiracy charge against Dileep in the sensational 2017 actress sexual assault case, a local court has observed while citing inconsistencies and lack of sufficient evidence against the Malayalam star.
The full judgement of Ernakulam District and Principal Sessions Court Judge Honey M Varghese was released late on Friday, and has revealed the judge also pointing out at unsustainable arguments put forth by the prosecution.
"The prosecution miserably failed to prove the conspiracy between accused No.1 (Pulsar Suni) and accused No.8 (Dileep) in executing the offence against the victim," the court held.
It examined in detail, the prosecution's allegation that Dileep had hired the prime accused to sexually assault the survivor and record visuals, including close-up footage of a gold ring she was wearing, to establish her identity.
On page 1130 of the judgment, under paragraph 703, the court framed the issue as whether the prosecution's contention that NS Sunil (Pulsar Suni) recorded visuals of the gold ring worn by the victim at the time of the occurrence, so as to clearly disclose her identity, was sustainable.
The prosecution contended Dileep and Suni had planned the recording so that the actress' identity would be unmistakable, with the video of the gold ring intended to convince Dileep that the visuals were genuine.
However, the court noted that this contention was not stated in the first charge sheet and was introduced only in the second one.
As part of this claim, a gold ring was seized after the victim produced it before the police.
The court observed that multiple statements of the victim were recorded from February 18, 2017, following the incident, and that she first raised allegations against Dileep only on June 3, 2017.
Even on that day, nothing was mentioned about filming of the ring as claimed by the prosecution, the court said.
The prosecution failed to explain why the victim did not disclose this fact at the earliest available opportunities.
It further noted that although the victim had viewed the sexual assault visuals twice, she did not mention any specific recording of the gold ring on those occasions, which remained unexplained.
The court also examined the approvers' statements.
One approver told the magistrate that Dileep had instructed Pulsar Suni to record the victim's wedding ring.
The court observed that no such wedding ring was available with her at that time.
During the trial, the approver changed his version, the court said.
The Special Public Prosecutor put a leading question to the approver on whether Dileep had instructed the recording of the ring, after which he deposed that the instruction was to record it to prove the victim's identity.
The court observed that the approver changed his account to corroborate the victim's evidence.
When the same question was put to another approver, he repeated the claim during the trial but admitted he had never stated this fact before the investigating officer.
The court noted that the second approver even went to the extent of claiming Dileep had instructed the execution of the crime as the victim's engagement was over.
This showed that the evidence of the second approver regarding the shooting of the ring was untrue, as her engagement had taken place after the crime.
The court further observed that the visuals themselves clearly revealed the victim's identity and that there was no need to capture images of the ring to establish identity.
In paragraph 887, the court examined the alleged motive behind the crime and noted that in the first charge sheet, the prosecution had claimed that accused persons 1 to 6 had kidnapped the victim with the common intention of capturing nude visuals to extort money by threatening to circulate them and there was no mention about Dileep's role in it.
The court also rejected the prosecution's claim that the accused had been planning the assault on Dileep's instructions since 2013, noting that the allegation was not supported by reliable evidence.
It similarly ruled out the claim that Suni attempted to sexually assault the victim in Goa in January 2017, stating that witness statements showed no such misconduct when he served as the driver of the vehicle used by the actress there.
The court also discussed various controversies that followed Dileep's arrest and the evidence relied upon by the prosecution, ultimately finding that the case had not been proved.
Pronouning its verdict on the sensational case on December 8, the court acquitted Dileep and three others.
Later, the court sentenced six accused, including the prime accused Suni, to 20 years' rigorous imprisonment.
The assault on the multilingual actress, after the accused allegedly forced their way into her car and held it under their control for two hours on February 17, 2017, had shocked Kerala.
Pulsar Suni sexually assaulted the actress and video recorded the act with the help of the other convicted persons in the moving car.
